The Bachelor/Bachelorette is in (travel) love! And you can be too!
Whether you are a fan or not, admit it, you’ve all watched the Bachelor/Bachelorette at some point…if not religiously. Don’t deny it. There are numbers to prove it. Don’t be ashamed. After all, there’s nothing quite like a show with 30 dudes/ladies ALL chasing one dude/lady and watching EVERY. SINGLE. ONE. OF THEM fall deeply in love with the Bachelor/Bachelorette while they trapeze together around the world together (regardless of how many other people they are kissing. ew).
Now, I’m about to say something outrageous…
I don’t think they are actually in love with each other. GASP! I know. But, I do think they are, however, in love with the wonder and delight that is world travel with someone who happens to be hot and awesome.
Now, I’m about to say something even more outrageous…
While I don’t think that the Bachelor/Bachelorette is a great example of how to model your relationship, I do absolutely 100% with certainty believe that world travel as a couple is one of the best ways to enhance your relationship and keep it sparky, spicy, spunky, and nice.
Thus, when you’ve already built the foundations of a successful and sustainable romantic relationship (by doing NORMAL relationship things), I fully advocate Bachlor-ing/Bachlorette-ing the crap out of your relationship by…drum roll…you guest it, traveling together!
After all, getaways are cheaper than therapy.
When I first got married, my mother’s sage advice to me was “Go on vacation together every month. Getaways are cheaper than couples therapy.”
And, wowzah! Was she right.
Every marriage has moments of stress/annoyance/rough patches/whatever you want to call it, right? That’s a normal part of marriage.
In order for my husband and I to keep our “moments” few and far between, however, we have made my mom’s advice a priority in our relationship. In other words, we get away together and we do it often, and it basically rocks, and always brings us closer together.
Road trips – Road trips are our favorite travel therapy. Our relationship owns the road. Whenever we are together in the car, we finally have the time to do what we loved doing so much while we were dating–hanging out together and talking. We talk about our dreams. We talk about our hopes. We talk about our disagreements. We make goals together. We discuss politics. We express our love for each other. We tell jokes. We pretend like we write for SNL and make up skits. We have fun.
Road trips are a time for bonding for us. Not to mention, it’s one of the only times Brandon gets to hear me rap along to popular 90s rap tunes…a real treat, as you can imagine.
Road trips are best to take, obviously, when gas is cheap. Also, if you’re gonna bring kids, be a bad parent, and set them up with an iPad, so they don’t bug you the whole time while you’re trying to bond with your sweetie.
Stay-cations – Sometimes we don’t have any money to spend on a luxurious vacation, so what do we do? We vacation in the North County, Utah area. This means we drop our kids off at our parent’s house (thank you mom & dad) and we head up to the Homestead, or go camping (this is a lie…I don’t really camp if I can help it…I just put it in here to encourage you to camp if that’s what you like), or even turn our home into a fancy hotel and unplug phones and televisions and just be together. Staycations ain’t bad.
Get the adrenaline going by doing crazy activities while on vacation – It’s a fact that when you do fun things/scary things/hard things together, you grow closer together. That’s why, I suppose, the Bachelor/Bachelorette people fall in love with each other. Something about skiing down a mountain, or going on a zip line, or hiking to the top of a mountain, or getting in a cage with sharks, or repelling down a mountain, etc. produces some bonding chemicals, and makes you fall deeper in love. If you can do these things together, you’ll find yourself spicing up your marriage in ways you never even thought possible. Adrenaline pumping activities breed romance. Oh, baby.
Dream vacation – Do you dream of going to Hawaii together? Are you all about a ski trip to Telluride? Have you been talking about hiking Machu Picchu for years? Do you want to see a Shakespeare play in London? Whatever your dream vacation is, just go on it together. Save a bit each month. Eat rice and beans for a while. Put it on your credit card (I realize this is bad financial advice), but I don’t care. Do whatever it takes to have wild and wonderful experiences together. You WILL grow closer together. Your marriage IS worth it. You’ll figure the rest out later…together…happily. Bam!
Leave your kids at home with a trusted loved one and go away together often. At least once a month. It’s fun. It’s worth it. It will change your life.
Even if you don’t like each other right now, I have a feeling that you will like each other again after your trip. Just do it.
Book a vacation now! I dare you. Do it now, and don’t look back! Travel really is cheaper than therapy.